Week 3: Life Make Over: Finding Your Lost Self
During the busy-ness of our lives, we have a tendency to lose ourselves in the shuffle of day to day chores. If you are a parent with dependent children, it is even doubly more so.
It becomes easy to the point of habit– putting yourself last as you work to make sure the needs of others are met first.
The problem with this is that it leads very quickly to burnout and resentment, but finding your way out of that self-martyring hole is a challenge in itself. After all, how easy is it to break a habit?
This week’s homework made some suggestions to help with this.
1) Keep a Journal- Since I already keep a surplus of ongoing journals at any given time, I will consider this task done. And I agree wholeheartedly with the reasoning why.
Writing the stories of your life- your hopes/desires/disappointments…opens you up to a revealing that years of therapy can’t touch. When I go back and re-read my older journals, (yes, I keep them all!), I am surprised by how far I have come, how much I have grown, and how well I have matured. This is the benchmark to gauge my growth which wouldn’t be possible if I had never started it.
2)Capture Your Dreams (literally)
Dreams are a way for your subconscious to make itself known, bringing to light the things just below the surface that your conscious mind tries to keep buried.
As an avid, over-the-top, technicolor dreamer that remembers all of her nightly journeys, dreams give insight to the untouchable areas of your life.
I log all of my dreams.
I study them.
Interpret the ones I can.
I study the dreams of others.
Dreams fascinate me to no end.
Sifting through the symbolism of dreams is like panning for gold, and every once in awhile, I strike either a nugget of wisdom or the mother-lode. All of which would be lost if they were never recorded.
This, too, I can check off as done.
3)Create a Community of Support
Self-explanatory but if you are reading this, you are part of my support group, either because I personally asked you to be, or by default. Accountability is the key to success.
Check as done.
4)Reawaken Your Spirituality
Dedicate time each day to your spiritual life.
Study spiritual literature, leaders, gurus, myths, religions.
Keep that divine connection open.
It was also suggested to write letters to God in your journal.
Surprise, surprise, I have a journal for that, too! And no, it is not because I am an overachiever, it is because I wanted to keep a log of my search for answers from the divine and the lack of answers I have received in return. I want so badly for there to be answers but so far…nada!
So, yes, this journal has maybe more than a few rants and quite colorful language not used in my other journals. If God is as big as he is believed to be, he can handle the language of an angry, middle-aged woman questioning His existence.
While I am on the subject, let’s just say, to date, Prayer, Begging, Contemplation, Bargaining, Church attendance, and religious studies, have not revealed any mind-blowing, earth-shattering revelations. But I am still searching.
Checked as done.
5)And finally, take out the date book and schedule an appointment for alone time just for you.
Meh, I have established my life around stolen moments just for me. As an introvert, my level on this is expert, so I do not feel I need to pen it into my date book.
Done. Done. and Done.
Still working on paint project and implementing week 2’s lessons into my life.
Thanks for joining me.
Catch you next week.