I am a self-help junkie — At least, I was. For the longest time, I would grab the latest self-help book in hopes that secrets would flow from their hallowed pages revealing how I could change my life, becoming something better than I could ever achieve on my own..
All these books start off the same way. A forward by the author who was in the pit of despair, then the change in mindset to do something about their situation, then the actual change itself, outlining the steps taken to climb out of their hole. Each author took different actions which eventually landed them on the publishers desk, chronicling their journey.
Some of these stories were very good.
Some of them weren’t.
Some helped. Most didn’t.
What has taken me an absurd amount of time to learn is that I alone walk my own path.
Just because something worked for one, doesn’t mean it works for all.
There are many paths up the mountain.
If you are fortunate enough to have been blessed with resources, knowledge and assistance along your way, you are indeed, lucky.
For those not in that type of circle, we must rely on our own wits, scappiness and courage to claw our way out of the hole of our own making before finding our way to the top.
Some swear by the Law of Attraction. It may even work for you and work well, but I have found that wishing and positive thinking only get you so far. The hardcore followers of this would view that statement as me putting too much negativity into the world and not having the right ‘vibration’ to attract good things into my life. I equate that along the same lines as the Christian beliefs that I haven’t prayed hard enough or I do not have enough faith for God to work good things in my life.
Both may be true or both may be merely opinions such as those expressed in all those books I have read. There are many paths up the mountain. Who has the right to say which is the right one for me?
What I have learned is this: You have to do the work!
I finally tired of putting money into the pockets of those selling snake oil promising good returns if I would only follow their formula. If it didn’t work out, I must have done something wrong.
You alone walk your own path.
Many of you may have your own gurus, mentors, and people you admire. I know I have mine. I listen to people. All people. I take heed of the lessons they have learned in their own personal journey and I apply what I can of those lessons to my own life.
Some of your favorites may say some really good things, and some of your favorites, Christian or not, may have chinks in their armour. That’s not always a bad thing. We are all human, but it is something to take into consideration when deciding what and whose dictates you decide to follow.
There are many paths up the mountain. Find the one that is right for you.
Believe me on this one: The road you travel is only as difficult as you choose to make it.
As for me, I am finding that with age does come wisdom but there is also a weariness that seeps in somewhere along the way. It is for that reason that looking for a gentler climb isn’t a bad idea. It may take longer to get where you are going but this isn’t a sprint, it is more like a marathon. Pace yourself.
Just something to keep in mind.
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“Never put an age limit on your dreams.” – Dara Torres, (2008),12 time Olympic medalist, at age 41